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My new book has been published, did you notice?

My new book has been published, did you notice?

Hi everyone,

Yes I have been a completely and utterly useless author of late and I still managed to get a book published. But don’t think “lucky cow, does nothing and still gets published” as that isn’t true at all. I got signed to have this book published back when I was still actively writing and it had to wait its turn to be published and – ta da! Here it is.

Has it made any sales or gotten any reviews? No, I don’t think so… and yet it’s been available for about a month. Why has it not taken off? Well, if you don’t shake those authorly assets folks, your books aren’t going to sell – plain and simple.

And so whose fault is it that I’ve made no sales or gotten any reviews? MINE! Come on everyone, we know we can’t blame social media, my publisher or anything but one thing. It was me. I did nothing and so nothing has truly happened. I was pretty sure this would be the case and look – nailed that theory! 😉

Okay, so why have I not been shaking those authorly assets? Many reasons. Mental and physical health of myself and my family have not been tip top this year. My simply amazing, gorgeous and wonderful mother in law – who I still think of and miss DAILY – passed away mid-January and, truly, we have not recovered from the loss. She meant THAT MUCH to us. 😦

So, with that as a corner stone, and add a new job for hubby, new school for my Eldest Horde and my other two Hordes getting to know new teachers and classrooms…. The start of our year was just… peachy. Then add my fun health issues (mental and physical) and well, being the glue that keeps everything together and the wheels that keep everything moving…. I feel they collided, the glue hit the wheels and they froze solid. And I have been slowly coaxing them apart ever since to get them where they belong so I can go back to looking like an elegant swan above water (with my legs paddling like mad below the surface). Right now I feel I look more like this….

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Yup, the good old bedraggled bird pic. How did we ever live our lives without memes? 😉

But please don’t feel down and depressed for me, I am happy as I write this and am sorry if this reads like a published pity party for one. It is just life and what I like to share to let people know they, hey, no one is perfect and see – we all go through tough times. I have taken my recent experiences and have allowed them to help me evolve. I now, more than ever, embrace the perfectly imperfect aspects of life. Things happen; we accept them and move on. Dwelling, rather than dealing, gets you nowhere.

Seek the positives. And I DO have some positives… I have discovered a new love that doesn’t just combine writing, but editing AND free books. How cool is that? I still review over on my other page here. But I was recently asked to become a beta reader for some of my favourite new authors. Meaning I got to see their work in action and make suggestions, pick up those clangers and fix them before publication and so on. I would like to think I have helped… Positive thoughts here… and enjoyed this new job (unpaid… well paid in books) so much that I have changed my degree! Yes, gone are my days of wanting to be a social media influencer – goodbye BA in Internet Communication! Instead I have switched to a BA in Professional Writing and Publishing. Thankfully all the units I completed for my old degree are in my new one so nothing is lost and more fulfilment and sense of belonging has been gained. I am a writer. As I have been saying all my life – I breathe, therefore I write. Becoming a social media spruiker may have seemed like the right thing to do to help sell my books…. But it wasn’t the right thing for my constant need to write. It kept taking away from it and pushing me into situations I wasn’t so keen on.

So, I bid that degree and idea of how to make a living a fond fair well. I write, therefore I am. And so it is now time I truly embrace that love of writing and focus on all things writing. Keep going with my ‘Other World’ series. Keep writing my murder mysteries, my haunted house, keep knocking on those publisher’s doors and rolling with the rejections. It’s time to start keeping an eye on the freelance writing side of things, but I’m not really ready to start pushing myself in that direction… yet. Instead, I am sticking to my three favourite things – reading, writing and reviewing. And reviewing simply now includes beta/ proof reading. Oh, and I have to say I am sure there are friends, readers – and my publisher especially – rolling around with tears of laughter at the thought of ME being able to proof read and CORRECT people’s work.

Yeah, yeah, I know. But you’d be amazed how switched on that area of my brain becomes when it’s not my writing I am looking at! 😉 It is my area of Neuro-diversity… whether I am HFASD or not – I don’t know, as I’m not diagnosed yet. But I also don’t care whether I am or not! Reading, proofing, editing… They use an area of my brain that just FIZZLES with excitement and joy at being used. The whole book unwinds in there and I can mentally see it all, see the gaps between the writing, the knots in their flow… and then gently fix them. That is me embracing what I am and enjoying it! Not actually getting paid in such a way as I could afford food, bills, mortgage… but hey, this isn’t my job. My kids are my job and my writing, reading and reviewing is just the stuff I do when not needed by them. 😀

Oh, and I WILL still be shaking my authorly assets too. As a matter of fact, did you know you could buy eBook copies of ‘There’s no place like Hell’ at these online bookstores here?

Hague Publishing
Amazon America
Amazon Australia
Apple iTunes
Google Play
Kobo
Barnes and Noble
Angus & Robertson

I will be updating my blog pages shortly to include this and the paperback versions of ‘Isis, Vampires and Ghosts – Oh My!’ to them all. And I am pretty sure Hague Publishing is still looking for ARC readers for ‘There’s no place like Hell’… so if you enjoyed book one of this ‘Other World’ series… let me know if you want a free eBook of the second one and I will see what I can arrange. There are only limited copies and my publisher has final say.

I also have, I think, about eight paperback copies of ‘Isis, Vampires and Ghosts – Oh My!’ available. I sign it, I add a little something homemade and crafty, I post it. Want a copy? Like my author Facebook page and drop me a message. Go on, you know you want to support me as a struggling author and word waffler! 😉

Okay, I feel I have probably written enough of a catch up for you all now and you can stop using my as a coffee break and get back to work. Go on… I hope to be a better blogger and add something else for you to peruse later on. Like how a rejection from Carina Press over my ‘Minton Manor’ haunted house story has just made me want to finish it all the more…

Until next time,

Janis.

 
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Posted by on June 30, 2018 in Update on my Writer Life, Writing

 

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Happy paperback release day to me! – Sing along, you know the tune.

Happy paperback release day to me! – Sing along, you know the tune.

Hello everyone!

Yes, if you’ve not noticed it on all my other social media sites, today it the re-release of ‘Isis, Vampires, and Ghosts – Oh My!’ but this time as a paperback book.

A lot of you have enjoyed reading it since 2014 as an eBook, but in preparation for the release of book two in the ‘Other World’ series – ‘There’s no place like Hell’ – my publisher Hague Publishing has decided to release the first book as a paperback.

It looks BEAUTIFUL, no? All 226 pages of it, with that simply gorgeous cover by Jade.

Here are pictures courtesy of Hague Publishing of not only ‘Isis, Vampires, and Ghosts – Oh My!’ but of their other amazing books. They were taken at Swancon this Easter long weekend. If you’re ever in Perth (Western Australia) for the Easter long weekend – you simply MUST go to Swancon. Thank me later.

‘Isis, Vampires, and Ghosts – Oh My!’ will still be available as an eBook at all good online bookstores, and available in paperback from them all now too! But if you want a signed copy, you need to buy it through Hague Publishing and let me know. 😉

Then in May we’re all going to get excited as ‘There’s no place like Hell’ hits the streets… well hits the online bookstores as an eBook. The paperback version will follow later in the year so don’t panic!

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I’m currently working on book three ‘We represent the Demon Guild’ and hope to have it and book four ‘If I only had some Braaains’ will be finished and submitted to Hague Publishing by the end of the year.

Though, in the meantime, I am also working my Murder Mystery set in a fictional Adelaide Hills town called Mount Loxton and, despite it being declined from a recent book proposal pitch with Carina Press, I hope to finish my supernatural haunted house mystery ‘Minton Manor’ this year too and have it circling the Publishers as I try and try again. Rejection? Pfffft. That’s just character building. If my stuff is meant to be published, it will. If it’s not? Put it to one side and write something else! I do this for the sake of writing, not for fame and fortune, so as long as I have willing readers, I am happy. Writing?? I will always write. I breath, therefore I write! So there is no stopping me! 😉

Other than that, life if progressing as per usual. I’m still reviewing and loving it. I’m Beta Testing games, Beta Reading for some of my favourite authors and studying away at my degree. Oh, and baking. Still doing a lot of baking. This is the cake I’ve just made for my own birthday. Yes, I wanted a dairy free, grain free cake and the best way to get one I could afford was to make it myself. Tasty. 😉

birthday cake 2018

So, go buy my books, enjoy your reading, keep up the ideas for your own work and all in all keep being amazing – it suits you. 😉

Until next time,

Janis.

 
 

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God has become a woman.

God has become a woman.

It is my strong satirical belief that God has become a woman… or, if the transition hasn’t fully taken place, She is well on her way to becoming so.

And why do I think this amazing event is taking place? Well simply because it seems to be the strong belief of most people today that women finally deserve a spot in the big chair of running things. It’s kind of like being the token ethnically diverse person in the work place… but on a grander scale.

Besides, how do we know God hasn’t always been a woman? Yes I know there is all that Lord and Father stuff mentioned in the Bible and similar holy texts but in this day and age things like Lord and Father are merely gender neutral titles, aren’t they? I mean, I’ve seen Lord being used on women before so the precedent is there. And who’s to say the original texts were translated correctly? I mean, is it REALLY Father? Maybe it’s just ‘Parent’. When you look at it, which parent does the majority of the thinking, decision making, wish granting and argument ending? Which parent knows all about the weather and tells you when you need to go our wearing a winter coat or a sun hat? These are some sound theories here people!

Add to that, isn’t it about time we saw a female deity take pride and place in all our homes? I mean, since when have we had such a strong female ethereal presence within religion to inspire and encourage young women of this world?

Oh sure, you may bring up other deities like Isis, Horus and Parvati, but come on! They’ve never truly held the centre stage. And besides, what have they done for us lately? Buddha and Shiva gender swap or go gender neutral all the time and they aren’t even the main attraction like God!

Mother Nature? Now surely that is more a state of mind or a thing scientist fight to disprove than an actual deity we can pray to for guidance and support. No, no, no! There is not meant to be any god before The God – So none of these chappies really count as valid points to this argument.

Let’s face it, God being a male is just so OUTDATED and last century. Surely this mainstream religion needs to get with the times, connect with the youth of today and embrace their diversity by adapting and showing that although the almighty may wear the pants in this universe, She also wears the matching blouse and pant suit jacket, with the milky way galaxy as a power suit accessory of pearls around her neck.

I really don’t know WHO would complain about such a great change. It’s a positive step to affirmation that we are all equal and great. Plus, if God has decided on this gender change – who are we to argue? If we trust in God, we surely need to trust that what She is doing is for the greater good. So let’s not all start complaining about it and just sit down, shut up and get on with the Hail Marys and what not.

How can I make such radical theories when I am not even a Christian? Well, you know, I’ve dabbled in Christianity now and then all my life. That new Pope had me show a bit more interest in what goes on in church too. So I’ve not been following it faithfully all my life, but hey, that doesn’t matter! I am just trying to keep the religion real and up to date with what the fans want. And I am pretty sure there are a LOT of Christians out there cheering on the fact God has slipped out of that beard and toga and slipped into a skirt with sensible flats – though I’m pretty sure a vengeful God would be loving a sharp pair of stilettos – just saying.

So, in summary, God is now a woman – or possibly was all along but kept it under wraps as people were more accepting of men in the main roles back in say the 1960’s. God changed Her gender (or soon will be, maybe around Christmas to keep with the Holy Spirit) simply because it is something that She has always wanted to do. She is moving with the times, helping raise the awareness and give the girls of today a much needed religious role model and – all in all – simply giving the masses what they want. She has thrown aside the old scriptures – which may have been incorrectly read in the first place – and is rebooting Her career to ensure Her holy masses keep the faith and keep her in their prayers.

How can you not all see this?

Until next time,

Janis.

 
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Posted by on July 22, 2017 in Writing

 

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Why I am saying goodbye to Doctor Who, and how that doesn’t make me sexist.

Why I am saying goodbye to Doctor Who, and how that doesn’t make me sexist.

Okay, so it’s been a while since I’ve posted as, quite honestly, child rearing, studying a degree and running a reviewing site have been taking up my time.

But with my next book out soon you may see more activity. But today I am here to set the record straight.

As you would know, if you’ve read my other posts, I am a lifelong Doctor Who fan. Not one of those Johnny come lately who only know the new Who… I am a LIFELONG fan. I grew up with it, the REAL Doctor Who where special effects were not letting the zipper show on the alien and 101 uses of bubble wrap by painting it green.

I own nearly all of the original Doctor Who stories as books in their original publications. I own almost all of the first 300 Doctor Who Magazines. Knowing Old Who (and some new Who) is the savant part of my idiot!

So, being annoyed by all old Who Lore being ignored and suddenly making it okay that Time Lords can change genders… that’s not me being sexist. And anyone who thinks it does, really doesn’t know me nor want to say it to my face and expect to keep all their teeth. Just saying.

Nor am I condemning Doctor Who for “moving with the times” or keeping up with the expectations of the tweeny millennials it now caters to (thanks SO MUCH Moffat you idiot). I am merely stepping away from my lifelong fandom to let this new generation – who only knows of reboots and the like and doesn’t give two hoots for the history or Lore of a show – and letting them have their turn in the sun. May they love and look after this show for the next 50 odd years. But me? I am out.

To give Moffat credit, he has been doing an excellent job in weening me off Doctor Who ever since he took over. And, despite my belief that Peter Capaldi would have been as great a Doctor as Tom Baker himself, Moffat ensured he wasn’t as he caters to the tweeny world where nothing bad happens. Companions don’t die – giving their lives to save the world anymore – they merely go off having adventures without the Doctor. Gosh I bet Katarina, Sara Kingdom, Adric and even Ace are a little annoyed that this option was available. Hey companions – you don’t need to die, just let the Moffinator give you the HEA tweens of today need! Stay strong – don’t die! In the tweeny world people don’t die, they merely have adventures without you… and vampires sparkle and can be good. Oh yay for this new golden era of life!

Note sarcasm. :-/

So yes, offer me potentially the best Doctor Who actor since the series was rebooted – but then write total rubbish stories so his potential is lost and the show dies a slow, sad death within my interest.

Good way to ween me off it all. Which is for the best, as I will not go with the reboot of Who suddenly allowing Time Lords to swap gender. It was bad enough when Missy was “somehow” made. Moffat totally missed a trick there by not making it Romana returned and in a bad mood – read the books of the series if you don’t know what I mean. Yes some of them spun off in a totally weird and insane direction (see Patience the TARDIS) but there are some gems out there and some bloody good ones about how Romana could almost be the Rani…. Think about it. Oh wait, Moffat doesn’t know about them as he wasn’t really that big a fan, merely did it for the money? My mistake.

As said, not wanting the Doctor to become female is NOT me being a sexist old prude. It is me sticking to the original stories and comments made within them. I mean yes, alright, Douglas Adams had his fun with Romana when Mary Tamm wanted to leave the series and was replace by Lalla Ward. He took Terry Nation’s story concept and added that typical Adams whimsical nature to it. Time Lords can’t change on whim, but Time Ladies can? And they can try on new bodies like trying on new outfits? Brought to you by the man who ensures I know where my towel is at all times. But that is different – and jarred with me back when I first saw those episodes (as repeats) as a child. There you go, I’ve been that pedantic and traditionalist since back then!

Time Lords/ Ladies do not swap genders. This is not true Who, this is a reboot. And, as with most reboots – see Star Trek and Ghostbusters – I refuse to acknowledge them as they don’t appeal to me. This does not make them wrong, it just means they are not for me and so I stepped away from them. As I will now with Doctor Who. After the Christmas special my kids are aware it won’t be allowed in my house. Simple. When they are old enough to rebel, get iview on their tablets and watch it – let them. But it is not my Who and not welcome here. Though may those who are embracing this new concept (reboot) of Who enjoy it without me. Seriously. If this is what needs to be done to keep it alive – then make it so… oh Trek got in there somehow. 😉

And speaking of Trek, look to it before you make your dumb arse comments about it being about time a sci-fi show allowed the dominant lead to be a woman. I love this meme and did indeed read it in Janeway’s droll tones.

Captain Janeway

But let’s not forget Captain (then General) Samantha Carter of Stargate. Kira Nerys of Deep Space Nine? And many others… Not the MAIN role? Puh-lease…. Don’t get me started on that as you won’t like where I stick it.

So, yes I am saying goodbye to Doctor Who. No I am not condemning it, wishing it fails and fall flat on its face or anything negative. It is just time it and I break up. I will keep my books and magazines and remember the good old days, but won’t be keeping in touch after Christmas. As I have said, let the new generation have their turn to care for and love what it has become. It is no longer Doctor Who to me, but that doesn’t mean it is wrong (well to me it does but I’m not in charge so meh), it merely means we’re not the BFF we once were.

Peter Capaldi – and I’m not just saying this as we’ve both hugged that wonderful writer Ann – you were a brilliant Doctor. You were what the Doctor needed to be. But you needed a writer who would do your talent and passion for the role justice… and you did not get this. I do hope this hasn’t ruined your lifelong love of Who too.

And so, goodbye Doctor Who. I will remember how you were fondly and prey this is not your death knell. But from here, the Cloister Bell is tolling and it’s time for me to leave. ❤

Until next time,

Janis.

 

 
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Posted by on July 18, 2017 in Writing

 

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New Year, New me? Pffft, who are we kidding?

New Year, New me? Pffft, who are we kidding?

Hello everyone, disorganised me again here giving you an update and wishing you all a happy new calendar new year… Being the Pagan I am, Yule marks my New Year… January 1st is just when I need to change all the wall calendars to the new ones people have sent me. What can I say? I’m a holiday non-conformist, meh!

So, anyway, I have been thinking over this post for a while and was all ready to turn it into a massive bitchy talk about people going so insane over the “Curse that is 2016”. Seriously, it was turned into a farce in the end and, well, what I had to say on the matter would have just been a spew of negativity. Now, I don’t know if it was my Zoloft kicking in, or a change of heart… But I decided there’s enough negativity and meanness on the Interweb already… It didn’t need me adding to it.

Instead…. As much as I loathe them as I feel they are so fake and insincere (when written by some people) I am going to do a sort of new (calendar) year’s resolution.

Though I do warn you now that it’s not so exciting as I pretty much plan to just keep on being me. Some may say that’s just lazy, but I see it continuing with my perfectly imperfect persona. 😉

I will say, this picture seen on Facebook the other day really does sum up the short version of my new (calendar) year’s resolution. And, I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in these wishes too! 😀

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The longer version would be this – I plan to keep being me. Keep writing as an author, reviewer and freelance blogger. Keep up that food porn on Instagram. Get back into making, baking and cooking all my own food. Keep acting up to embarrass my kids – fart jokes and other female bodily functions are doing the trick right now… Just keep being ME.

Like for a lot of people, it was a tough year last year. My step-grandfather passed away, I hurt my back and was left couch bound for months – meaning house, Hordes and hubby suffered. My health has plummeted and I’ve put on 30 kilos in under 12 months and my Doctors are still trying to figure out why. My husband was made redundant, I had to drop out of my studies and all in all we had some downers.

I mean, 450,000 people died in Syria – 50,000 aged 12 and under so I can’t say we had the worst year in the world. But our first world problems still caused our little pocket of reality to tilt on its side and go to shit for a while.

But we had some positives too. Friends got married, others welcomed new life and a new baby into the world. My reviewing site took off a little and I have been receiving a whole stack of free book and kitchen appliances. Big name publishers came to ME to review, rather than the other way around. When I was studying, I was averaging Distinctions to High Distinctions. Heck, my blog post on here outing myself as a depressed housewife on Zoloft got me a lot of (hopefully positive) views and comments. See – look for the positives.

Both my daughters were assessed for Giftedness – both now confirmed. My younger daughter is “twice exceptionally” Gifted, meaning she has a learning disability with it. So, three kids, all on the spectrum to some extent, all needing me to be their centre as they learn to be themselves and accept themselves for what they are as they grow. Middle Horde (Miss 9) has started into the mental aged teens as her older sister did at that age. Eldest Horde is about to turn 12 while holding down the maturity of an 18 year old with a 10 year old’s emotions. Yes, and by the way I hate the label “Gifted” as it makes it sound so positive and wonderful. It’s not… but that is for another blog on another day.

Back to me and my calendar year ahead. Well, as it has been decided for me that I can’t work right now  – as my children need me as their primary carer more – I am focussing myself more on what I feel I do well – write.

I will do my best to get back into weekly blogging for my four blogs (this one included), I have a lot to keep up on with my reviewing – yes I am still small fish, but gaining interest from others so now is the time to work my butt off.

Plus I have three more books in my Other World series to finish as well as several other WIP stories to nail down and get sorted out before see if anyone wants to publish them.

For any publishers reading this (who haven’t fallen asleep yet) they are a cosy crime series set here in the Adelaide Hills, a dystopian YA urban fantasy set in a world where global warming is not only real, but has bitch slapped everyone – it starts in Antarctica, it has penguins and sort of reminds me of Mr Flibble. 😉 And finally, my kids have me writing a series about tweens who go on school excursions and are left behind…. And the adventures they get up to. Firstly I am setting them in places around Adelaide I can go to and research… but if anyone wants me to say, do one for the Smithsonian or something, please feel free to send me tickets and money for accommodation. My kids will need to come too as they are my researchers. 😉

And, on top of all the reviewing, blogging and authoring – I will be continuing in my studies, figuring out what the heck is wrong with my back and my health and doing my best to make my little pocket of reality a lot happier, healthier and prosperous than last year.

I can’t change the world, I can’t help slow the fact 1 person dies of rabies every 9 minutes or that there are over 100,000 homeless here in Australia right now… but I can try and make a difference here in my own home. I can think positive, share that positivity with others, and remind people how awesome they are and how important it is for them to be alive.

I can continue to donate my time, money and no longer needed (but still good) items to charity. I can ensure we continue to eat well, cut down on what goes into landfill and teach my children to love and respect themselves as well as others.

I can’t cure the illnesses of the world; I can’t stop the wars… But I can make a stand as to how we treat the people around us and just pray that kind gesture is as infectious and spreads out to others.

I can’t stop the mass extinctions happening to animals, I can’t fix the Great Barrier Reef nor the over polluting happening in our world. But I can try and buy things second hand – re-use what already exists rather than allow it to go to landfill. I can be water wise and try to avoid plastic packaging. I can continue to buy, shop at and support local… and when that’s not possible, buy from those ethically and environmentally minded.

I can’t sustain the world… But no matter what happens to our income (and the fact we have none right now) we will continue to support those who still have less than we do. I will still think of others and donate what I can. I will still be thankful to have what I have as I am still a rich, blessed and extremely lucky person to have a house, family, food, clean drinking water and free medical aide if needed – all right here when others, even fellow Australian’s, don’t have these things. I will still protest against Australia’s disgusting treatment of refugees.

I may not be able to change to world, but I can seek the positives, make a difference in my little spot and be proud of knowing I have done my best. I can continue with my random acts of kindness, my smiles at strangers (even if they think it means I’m insane) and my desire to turn even the dullest moment into an overly sarcastic giggle for others to read.

THAT is my long new (calendar) year’s resolution.

Just remember, don’t feel small things can’t make a difference. I mean, just look at what one tiny tissue can do to a load of darks in the wash. 😉

Until next time,

Janis.

 
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Posted by on January 5, 2017 in Update on my Writer Life

 

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Mental Illness – End the Stigma.

Mental Illness – End the Stigma.

Me being me I am a little slow on joining in the whole mental health awareness week on my blog. But I have been active with it on my personal Facebook page and had such success with a post there, I decided to post it here too.

How was it successful? Well, you will see I openly talk about my level of mental illness and invited others to do the same. I got some amazingly heartfelt and truthful responses (both out in public and in private) and feel blessed to have the friends that I have. I am not about to share their responses here… but would be interested to see if anyone else wants to join us in being so out there and open to help end the stigma on mental illness. Please note that this is a post about ENDING the stigma and so all comments that are deemed negative and inflamatory will be deleted. My blog, my rules. 😉

My post started with the following pic. Unfortunately I can’t reference it correctly as it came from another friend’s timeline. So I will just say this is not my picture, I did not create it and all kudos and credit goes to the actual creator – they are awesome!

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And, yes, I totally agree with the words at the bottom and it got my usual oppinionated ranty self going and so I came up with the following. I am not ashamed of it, I will freely post it and be open and honest as I am who I am and in my life right now I just happen to need antidepressants.

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Be truthful to who you are. Mental illness is an illness not just a state of mind you can snap out of.

Diabetics aren’t told “Just don’t eat cake”. Cancer patients aren’t just told “you shouldn’t have smoked” even when they never did…

So it pisses me off when I am told I don’t need antidepressants as a nice walk in nature and a good sleep will fix all that ails me. I have a chemical imbalance inside me. I fought using antidepressants for over a decade as it was deemed the “lazy” way out. I tried diet, exercise, karmic retribution, hobbies, crystals, aromatherapy, belief, sleep, sex, laughing, gut health and all the rest. I ended up making myself obese with comfort eating – and am still fighting this issue today and trying to stop it damaging all of me permanently.

So… hi, my name is Janis and I take antidepressants. I am currently on 25mg of zoloft a day and may soon need to up that as it’s now only just taking the edge off the dark despondancy that consumes me, rather than lifting me out of it, making me want to get out of bed, get dressed, eat, interact, not drive me car into a tree and all the other “fun” stuff I go through. I have “mild” depression and anxiety. This doesn’t mean I’m a little blue, it means I don’t want to curl into a ball and wait for the darkness to consume me every single waking moment of every day… just half the time.

I am a better person on zoloft, I am a nicer parent and I can actually see my life is important and worth putting on those big girl panties for and getting on with it.

Depression is a bitch – big black dog. Anxiety is a rabid, nasty, vicious black dog. These are my dogs. Your dogs will look, feel and act differently so don’t judge me on how you feel. I don’t judge you.

But I will try and help to remind you how awesome you are, how important you are and how you ARE worth it.

#endthestigma

Until next time,

Janis.

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Happy Birthday Star Trek.

Happy Birthday Star Trek.

Happy 50th birthday Star Trek. You might be the younger sibling in this house of Who… but we do our best not to play favourites and so here is a blog post just for you.

Although I didn’t get into Star Trek until I was a teen… that does still mean I’ve been a Trekkie for *cough* twenty plus years now.

Yes I cut my teeth on The Next Generation – you can blame Data and Wesley for that – but I soon decided I needed to go to the source and see where it all came from. I still own all the TIME LIFE Star Trek Original series videos I simply begged my parents to buy for me… watched pretty much all of them too. I don’t actually OWN a video player these days, and can’t see myself getting another one any time soon… but I still own those videos. I simply do not have the heart to bin them… though I do doubt any of them are even playable anymore as they did live in the tropics for quite some years and all Who videos I tried to watch from back then well… snapped. Humidity seems to fuse them all together. That is, when the bugs aren’t turning them into nests.

Gosh I love DVDs.

But anyhow, yes I am a Trekkie! Surprise! I used to also be a mad keen Star Wars fan, but when you tinker with perfection for too long its arse tends to fall off… and that is now my opinion of that particular… franchise.

Blake 7, Goodies, Mel Brooks, Monty Python, old and new Who… What can I say? My mind was moulded by some of the best. And most of them are timeless and can never age. Except The Next Generation…. Yeah, that got old real quick and is now one of the only Trek I can’t watch without cringing. Sorry Wes and Data. Still love you loads. 😉

And that is hard now that I am passing these sage tomes of visual wisdom onto my next generation… as do I allow them to be tainted by TNG? Middle Horde is my main partner in crime for all things sci-fi and has been my constant companion here 5pm on a week night where they’ve been showing Voyager. That was until yesterday, where to celebrate Star Trek, they started showing the Original Series from the first episode (not the pilot mind you, but from Where no Man has gone before). Middle Horde loved it… kept going on about all the simply amazing and so spacey and realistic special effects, far better than all the modern CGI stuff. Me… I sat there looking at the 50 year old special effects with my best pout on and wanting my 20 year old special effects back as Voyager hadn’t even made it home yet before they ripped it off the screen to do this. DELAYED SPOILER: Yeah, they make it home… did so 20 years or so ago now. Ooops.

I am not one known to enjoy change to my routine but, as Seven often says: “I will adapt.” There’s only, what? 79 episodes of the Original Series right? Then we might get back to Voyager. Hopefully? Let’s not run through them all and do Next Gen next. Deep Space Nine I can handle (hellloooo Julian!) but not even watching Wes grow up without me being the same age at the time can make me want to sit through Next Gen again. Sorry Jean Luc, love you loads too.

All the same, happy birthday Star Trek! Doctor Who might be my heart and soul – and by introducing Middle Horde to it first she is easier able to adapt to the concept of Original Series vs Enterprise (not that she’s seen it yet). We will deal with the reboots of Trek and her later… she’s not even cut her teeth on the original movies yet. And, yeah, we might just skip the motion picture and go right on in with Khan. Sorry, but true Trekkies know why.

Let us all take a moment to look back and realise exactly how much a love of Trek has created the technology we see today. I use my PADD and communicators all the time. Sadly I can’t talk into my mouse and have my computer know what I’m saying… but there is software that allows me to talk via a dragon. 😉 The blue whales are still safe (I have a model one on my writing desk to prove it), we have tribbles rather than dust bunnies under the couch and I still even own (not so much wear anymore) my Bajoran ear ring. I watched the shows, played the games, wore the t-shirts (still own them and a few other things), and even cut my teeth in writing with an online Trek fan group. My sarcasm needed a home even back then and so if anyone out there knows and remembers Counsellor Lasha Palpatine (you can take a girl away from Star Wars… and all that), or her lovable sidekick Daffyd, Kavin Tamlor or even the Bagheerena twins on Star Base Omega – yup… I’m still writing! I just went old school. 😉

You have been a part of my existence and imagination for over half my life. You have shaped the world around me in ways no other TV show has and I thank you for helping my real life technology get its act together and be as high tech as my standards expected it to be as a child. Reading about Vulcan’s in Homer’s Odyssey and Jem-Hadar (jamadar) and ferengi in Conan Doyle’s work as a teen has always made me smile as they may be older and talking about different things, but the cross over is still funny. 😉

To all those who have been a part of Star Trek from the beginning (helped create it and first fans alike) to those keeping it alive today – I Vulcan salute you.

And, as I do like this play on words…

Live long and prosper, resistance is futile. ❤

Until next time,

Janis.

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My blue whale… and other clutter. 

 
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